Thursday, the low tire pressure light comes on in my Camry as I head down 8th street to work. Then, I feel the steering wheel wobbling in my hands. I turn on my blinkers when I get to the stop sign at Cumberland, and walk to the front of the car. The front passenger tire is flat. Shit. My heart skips a beat, and I see myself frantic and panicked for the rest of the day. Wait. I take a deep breath, think about what to do, and, instead of in the past, when the only option I had was to call someone who would blame, berate, and criticize me while offering begrudging help, I realise that this isn’t a crisis. A flat tire used to be a crisis in my life, because of my relationships, and my finances. But now I have roadside assistance, paid for with my good money. I have a network of supportive friends and neighbors. I have cash budgeted for car emergencies such as this. I have tools to manage my anxiety so that this inconvenience doesn’t determine the trajectory of the entire day. I call roadside assistance, schedule a towing to a mechanic near my workplace. I ask my neighbor to give me a ride to work. I let my boss know I’ll be 30 minutes late. I ask the parent of a student (who has become a friend), to give me a ride to the mechanic. I get to the mechanic, pay the bill, and drive home.
Cool as a cucumber.
The difference between my calm self now and the younger me who had (all-too-frequent) car accidents or issues and was derailed by them for days, emotionally and financially, is a load of personal growth work, therapy, etc., and money. Damned money.
I think often about the mystery of wealth. In the capitalistic, dog-eat-dog (isn’t that a terrible phrase?!) society we find ourselves in, politics and social circles revolve around the bottom line, the dollar, the profit. I easily fall into a thought cycle of how can I build wealth, how can I save wealth, and of everyone I know, I’m one of the least interested in money. Even listening to conversations between students I hear them accepting what they have been taught is fact: building wealth is the most important thing to do, and the best way to spend your life, is earning as much money as possible.
It’s heartbreaking.
The mystery is that wealth can lift some of life’s most acute burdens off of our shoulders (the stress of a car accident, the pain of living with chronic, untreated health problems, fear of having no place to spend the night, etc.) but it has no bearing on life’s greatest joys, and earning excessive amounts of money leaves no positive impact on the world.
Money can’t buy the way a child runs to his parent with arms spread wide, unconditional love and affection on full display.
Money can’t buy friends who surround you with an embrace when you’ve reached a low point.
Money can’t buy the ability to look back and see that you brought yourself through trauma, disappointment, and resentment by fiercely cultivating healthy habits, gratitude, and forgiveneness.
Money can’t buy the connective sense of being understood that flutters in the heart when you read a book in which the author describes a feeling you could never quite put your finger on.
Money can’t buy the loyalty a pet shows its’ loving human.
Money can’t buy a good sense of humor, style, or respect for elders.
Yet, Thursday’s event was an inconvenience instead of a catastrophe in my life, because, now, I have more money.
All I want is for everyone to have what they need.
I want those with too much, with so much that they feel guilty, isolated, and bored, to have less. I want those who are homeless, unable to make ends meet, working over time just to survive, sacrificing good eating habits to save money, etc. to have more.
All I want is for the human family to be as one. Provided for. Grateful. Generous. One. Amen.
“Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.” ~ Matthew 19:24 (the Bible)